Found out ex died He was only 24. My husband didn't say much, but he let me talk, let me be quiet and withdrawn. I found out about his death from a mutual friend sharing his most recent ex's post about his memorial. I found out my ex was murdered 4 years ago. We had been denied the opportunity to attend his cremation service or to say our final goodbyes. You are divorced. It’s so strange grieving someone significantly after the fact. This was 2 years ago. I remarried and have been blessed with a loving wife and family for over 50 years. Even more shockingly, he had died over four years ago. He was a person who loved deep c I found out my husband had paid for his nephew’s tuition from grade school to high school. I (18f) have been dating my current bf (20) for about 2 years now. I wasn’t in the best place mentally and we both needed to be separated in order to grow as individuals. It’s li ke he left me twice. I had 27 days sober but I just found out that my ex died. I hadn’t talked to my ex in maybe 10 years but I never stopped caring about him or loving him. My significant other's ex-wife passed away about a year and a half ago. Now my ex-husband is dead. I never really got to truely mourn. Healing Alone - Dealing with a spouse's affair after their death, or when they leave the marriage. Jan 21, 2024 · I found out an ex love had died from a heart attack in his sleep whilst casually reading posts in a Facebook group of people that all worked together in a huge organisation in the 70s,80s and 90s. Feb 27, 2023 · Therefore, hearing that one of my ex-boyfriends had passed away brought up many unexpected and confusing emotions. I was very angry for a long time, not that he died, but because he had made my life so miserable for such a long time. We had no mutual friends in real life. Wife at home, husband “helping” ex thru stage 4 cancer (believe it was breast but not 100%). We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Jul 23, 2016 · He found out a month ago he had liver cancer still wont let me see my son he died exactly one month after finding out december 7 2018 he died his funeral was the 14th i didnt go because my step son was their and he and his mother would of had me arrested. Then, talking to some people I found out he took his own life. So i gave him his space, while being there for him in ways that i could. She knew how to play everyone like a fiddle and fool people. Hope to see you soon!" An hour later, I found out she died the 30th of June. Feb 2, 2017 · Two weeks later I found out he passed away by my ex brother-in-law and I have no clue on how to get past all the emotions that I’m dealing with 1 Petra July 31, 2024 at 5:04 pm Reply May 15, 2020 · I was searching about finding out years later someone important passed away and came across your post. We meet when I was a sophomore and he was a senior and we started dating. My boyfriend of 10 years died from liver failure just 4 weeks ago at the age of 35(i am 29). (And it didnt help that it was a long distance relationship). You will grieve and the shock will pass. I was creeping on his Facebook and saw memorial posts but no one said anything about how he died. An ex of mine died not long ago, and it hit me hard. Then I found a phone bill and messages between them after he asked for a divorce. My ex-boyfriend died in a freak accident on a solo hunting trip in Alaska a few months ago. In a heartbeat I knew where my loyalties truly lay at that point in time, and it was the death of the new relationship. It's a little different for me with dying ex, because I knew that he would die very young, so I pretty much grieved that reality when I left him for actively participating in slow suicide. May 12, 2014 · I found out from my daughter who found out about it on Facebook. I've recently found out (as of about a week ago) that an ex-girlfriend of mine died. He didn’t commit suicide but he did neglect himself after his next wife left him and his cause of death was pretty horrible. I hadn’t spoken to him for a few years. He and I didn’t have the best relationship, and we had dated years ago. 6 years ago I was looking at attending my high school's 40th class reunion and went to the page to see which classmates had died and found him. It is tough, but time helps. I found out too late that he was dead so wasn’t able to attend the funeral. We didn't end on horrible terms in my opinion, but I kinda ghosted a little bit. Apparently he walked in front of an SUV and was hit and then landed in front of a tractor trailer that then ran him over. I am upset and don't know how I should feel. I always had regretted breaking up with her, and even though six years have passed since I last saw her, and I've moved on to another relationship I still found myself deeply impacted by her passing. Our secret relationship was filled with furtive glances across the boardroom table and a covert language filled with innuendo known only to us. Jun 5, 2024 · I found out tonight that my ex-boyfriend passed away under terrible circumstances. I found my ex's dead body on the floor. The last time we buried him. After she died, he was really distraught. He had had a girlfriend (who we'll call R) from when he was 15, so about 2 years back, who had committed suicide when she was 14 after they had been dating for 5 months. Oct 11, 2018 · Last year, my ex-boyfriend died. The pain it's just too deep. She died suddenly from a brain aneurysm. He broke up with me because his then EX pretended she was pregnant to get him back. You’re probably questioning over and over again whether you should show up, if you’ll be welcomed by their family, or if it’ll be awkward for whoever they were last with. It didn't help that my ex had died of a potentially contagious disease and I had to be screened myself quickly, because I'd been in recent contact. Can I request any of his assets if we were divorced? Ann's Question: My ex recently passed leaving over $6,000,000 in assets and $400,000 from life insurance for Dec 4, 2021 · Hi, I am writing here, cause I don't really know who to talk to. My ex passed away but we were not dating when he did. I had no interest in him but he bought me booze for a concert one night and then gave me a free ecstasy pill and I ended up sleeping with him. It would depend on the ex If it was my ex-wife/daughter's mom, I'd be devastated. So I would like to share my story here. ) His sister had died from cancer and BIL refused to get a job and lived off his son’s survivor benefits. She took our son and disappeared. Young like your ex. I can't stop reading our conversations. He just passed away, and I have been notified that he changed beneficiaries, even though the decree stated he was not supposed to do so. It was a big shock, nobody saw it coming and it’s been really hard to deal with, especially since we were still Look, people even cry and feel sad when an abusive, horrible, "completely wrong for them, best thing to ever happen to them was breaking up" ex dies, let alone an ex who's a good person and things just didn't work out romantically. Aug 19, 2021 · We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. He died in poverty, alone, using food banks for food, no money for electricity an alcoholic by the sounds of things. Let’s say she was going troughs a bad phase of her life, she was very depress and had already abandoned us once for 3 month in the past. Attempting to process alone the sadness you may be experiencing may create more confusion as you grapple with the reasons why you feel the way you do. I broke up with her 9 years ago and i have not had any contact with her since. One day he just died. Even though he hadn't always treated me well he was actually a good person and his family had already lost the mum some years before so I really felt for them. Good bye Tony! I admire your friend. Dec 20, 2019 · My affair was about as clichéd as they come: an office romance with a man who was already in a very public relationship. But then I found out he died, last year. I moved back home. There was a point in your life when you had hopes and dreams shared with this man. I found out though his old co-worker about his death otherwise I wouldn't have known about it. Can I write widow on my important documents or not? Brette's Answer: No. Apr 8, 2024 · I found out recently that my ex died. I texted her the day she died asking to meet me for coffee and 30 minutes later her friends call me telling me what happened. He had been a transient for the past few years and was found unresponsive at a subway station before being pronounced brain dead a week later. I always had a gut feeling when something was wrong with him and would reach out to know I was there, two weeks ago I guess I didn’t catch it, but today I did when a thought came to me that I should google his name - and there it was in a an obituary. Jan 30, 2020 · I recently found out that my ex-husband has died. I found out 1 week after my husband died of cancer that he had an affair. I ended things because I felt despite the feelings we had, we were just too different. The title really. Apr 26, 2021 · When a former spouse dies, divorce is no protection against grief. your opinion, but personally i don’t think the husband did anything wrong. I responded back that I was shocked and that I hoped she and the family were holding up okay. Apr 29, 2020 · If my ex husband died and i found out about it, my guy would totally get how i never want to be with the ex, but because that person was a close part of my life, i would feel grief - it would be a weird, conflicted grief beause i honestly don't love him anymore, but i am sure i would feel some grief of some sort. I am now in a relationship and I don't think he was in one. I found out by a fluke news search. I messaged her this afternoon. While some didn’t believe her, she fooled/tricked a lot of people. Since 2019. My wife's ex-boyfriend died 3 times. "Hey, Mxxxx! I'm back in Spain. Which old witch? The wicked witch. We were married 45 years. But he's dead now and not all bad. Wife began divorce Well because she may be able to move on much easier. A few months ago I wanted to commit suicide but then someone told me on reddit if I ever wanted to find out whether my ex truly cared about me or not and that kind of led me not to. Wife does her best to hang in there but finally loses her cool. He died two years later, and I still find myself shouldering feelings of blame and regret, though I My ex (surprise, surprise, he's an ex!) behaved absolutely atrociously when one of my exes died. I never once suspected anything. I'm not sure why I found my way here, but it feels good to get it out. His body wasn't found for over a week. We broke up 5 months ago (read: Did my panicking ruin my relationship for good?) Since that post we have talked off and on. My ex and I dated for ten years - we met when I was a freshman in Dec 20, 2018 · My ex dropped dead at my feet a few weeks after our divorce was final. No services were held or anything. I’m 22 and my ex (20) died in a car crash back in August. I dated my ex for a two years; worst two years of my life. The judge wasn’t either, and awarded the entire sum to the spouse. I found out after I left her she had been telling people crazy stories for years about me. She died just like that and guess fucking what? Jan 2, 2024 · It was not to be changed by him at all, and ex wife was to get the pension paid to her monthly upon his death. and no matter what you feel If you have an ex-spouse that died, please share your experience in the comments section below, I’d love to hear learn more about what you are feeling. After this dream i felt i should look her up and see how she is doing, and i found out she died in December 2020. Jan 17, 2022 · When an ex-spouse or partner dies, society's rules for when and how to grieve can be perplexing. on and off. I got a lot of grief from his family for 'upsetting him'. He had suicidal tendencies years ago and I am afraid I might trigger that. Before yesterday, we had no contact for the past 2 weeks. When I first found out they couldn't find him, I knew immediately he was gone. May 17, 2019 · My ex was battling drug addiction and mental illness, and to protect myself, I had to walk away. You will also need to reach out and find your own support circle. She's gone where the goblins go- Below, below, below. Sep 18, 2019 · I just found out that my college sweetheart died, and not recently but 7 years ago, from an overdose, after having struggled with addiction for years. He says his ex already died and it’s gonna break him if I left him too. 5 years, we had been friends for 8 years. Jun 14, 2022 · My ex-husband and I split up two years ago and have been in no contact since December 2020. She came to my kids bday parties, we went on trips together, I called her my sister. We broke up a year ago and I wanted to get back together with her. Mar 9, 2018 · In his teen years my son talked about contacting him and I said not until he was 18 and out of high school. You are now a full time single dad and you weren't expecting to be, so there will be a lot of adjustments to make in your daily life. I recently found out he died, and I'm grieving his loss. In many cases, a grieving ex may have lost their place within the ex's family and is no longer considered by society when offering condolences and support to the bereaved. The pain feels so fresh but no one is in the same place as you with it. The wicked witch is dead. While it took a while, I am finally free of the relationship and found peace with a wonderful man! Love and hugs! Aug 7, 2021 · Dear Roe, Early in the year I found out that an ex-boyfriend passed away suddenly. I had no idea and it still feels so out of character for him. Seek out support. There were some good times, times when he was smart, funny, and… Ding dong the witch is dead. The news was devastating. Regardless of the current situation, from still being friends to falling out and not talking, I know they are decent guys at heart, people I cared for deeply, and that doesn't disappear just because being a couple didn't work. Sep 6, 2020 · “We’d been married for 40 years when he left me. I'm aware they were very close, this is very raw, and we haven't spoken in years, so my second thought is to say nothing. He wasn't just my ex that I dated for 1. You may think that you're all alone when it comes to grieving over your ex. We broke up for the final time in December 2018 after I had him arrested for smashing in the window at my house. We were married for eleven years and have two children. My long-ago ex was also married, and I was/am friends with his wife. Mar 19, 2020 · Photo Credit Karim MANJRA on Unsplash. You are only a widow if you are married at the time of the death. And I found out because I was Facebook stalking him. We were in love, he had his own demons, demons he was fighting when I ended it. They were together 5 years, engaged, and a month from their wedding. He was the first person I feel I truly loved. I drove to her parents house and they. I found out of his passing last week and I haven’t been able to stop crying since. I think he was confident and secure that she truly loved him. He had a lot of issues going on when we dated. I had to delete my original post as I'd accidentally given out too much personal info, but I wanted to offer an update on how I've managed to get through it. About a month later she miraculously 'lost the Oct 7, 2021 · Friends and Family of Alcoholics - Found out my ex boyfriend died 5 months ago - I was with my ex on and off for 4 years. He was petty, insecure, and jealous. Thats another story. We had no idea how sick he was til he turned yellow he only lived 6 more days after arriving at the hospi Nobody reached out to me. I'd feel like such a fool and that I'd wasted so much energy and time on someone who had betrayed me. I (45M) have a daughter (22F) and a son (18M) with Anny ex-wife who I tought abandoned us 15 years ago. I was married and a mum by then, but I was terribly sad and cried when I found out about his death. Don’t go at it alone. I felt totally out of my body and still grieve so much. Aug 16, 2023 · I have just found out that be has died, he died alone in his house and wasn't found for days, ever since I have been struggling to keep it together, I keep having dark thoughts and I get upset. anyone who expects you to drop your friends bc of their own insecurities is not a good partner. I've known her all my adult life and would go out of my way to protect her, even though we're divorced. We talked/got into it a little yesterday or something stupid, and then we talk I wanted to see her again and apologize for my stupidity and immaturity, maybe start again to love her properly. So I sent my husband over constantly to help her do stuff like mow the lawn, clean out the garage, etc. My ex killed himself about two years after we broke up. We were together for a very long time and I was crushed. Found Out Ex Who Cheated Died Last Night I got an email from my ex-GF's mom this afternoon letting me know her daughter had passed away last night. He was emotional, angry, and very quiet. We were in a relationship for for 3 years, we were so alike yet so different. I trusted her completely. At least he died in his sleep, suicide is a dreadful thing to read about. Jun 3, 2020 · 3. I've been going through a lot of phases of grief and it's really hitting me in waves. I found it helpful to talk to Jul 12, 2016 · Found out 3 wks before christmas, that my ex husband had died. That's what Linda Gravenson discovered when her ex-husband died in 2019. I feel so guilty right now. Since then I put something on Facebook about my father; the fact he’d died and that he’d abused me when I was a child. After debating for one week and rememberin our memories i finally had the courage. Because my routine, my life wasn’t disrupted by it. Nov 28, 2017 · My ex died in a motorcycle accident aged 30, about 6 years after we broke up. It's been nearly 8 months since my husband (56) died of cancer and I found out about his affair four days later when I checked his phone and then his laptop. On Wednesday I found out my ex boyfriend had passed away. Wake up, sleepy head. I read a post not that long ago that was very similar. Advice sought for: My immediate reaction is to reach out to my ex to say sorry for her loss and how much this man affected me. Yo-ho, let's open up and sing and ring the bells out. I posted him one time, in my close friends and watched his funeral on Youtube. Ding dong. I found out a few weeks ago that he does care and that it was eating him. He and I were close. I know factually that it's not my fault and that it was his decision alone but I also know that had he never met me, he'd probably be alive today. To you, OP: you are going to mourn, deeply. Jul 11, 2019 · I know this long but ive been finding it hard to get all of this off my chest its been a rough day. When he first found out she was on her death bed he thought he was fine, but within hours I noticed his behavior changed. Jun 18, 2021 · This is my first time ever writing a post like this. I've been looking for my friend/ex on and off for years. I found out on Monday that my ex committed suicide. It was enough. I just found out that my ex's sister died. Dec 16, 2017 · I found out a week ago, purely by chance online, that my ex-husband and father of my three now grown-up children had died. I just found this out last week when I met his parents. He became distant. Nothing changed for me. He was an alcoholic and was abusive. I let myself think about him for a minute or two everyday. Wake up, the Wicked Witch is dead. He died young. Why am I experiencing such grief over my ex-wife’s passing? Disenfranchised grief? or sorrow for my prodigal son and those she left behind. Found out he died 2 years after graduating under mysterious circumstances. My mother, his ex-wife, spoke to my half-brother, but she didn’t phone me until the next day. If you discover that your spouse hid assets during your divorce, your legal options may depend on which state you live in. . His mom reached out to me after she found out we broke up, and she had offered to take me out to lunch (I presume to talk about what happened, I don’t think she knew). We met at a restaurant where I was a host at age 17 and he was a server at age 22. ” “I was a mess after my ex died, so I talked to a psychologist. But still I kept thinking about him. Our friend explained what happened and I just ended the call. My ex and I broke up over 10 years ago. I would want to know. We both remarried and this happened over twenty yrs ago. I don’t know how to feel. Three years after the divorce, my ex moved out of state and did not pay support or keep in touch with the kids. 5 years. So of course, I was crushed. It felt different than when my friends died, but still The more I get to know him the less I like him. 13K votes, 2K comments. He died last Sunday, I guess in some sort of freak accident. It was just a feeling of despair. I had always hoped that they would not remain together (out of pure selfish spite), but now seeing how broken my soon to be ex wife is, I am completely devastated for her. He texted me only a few days ago on my own father’s death anniversary and always remembered to do so. 21 years is a long time. I'll be honest I did feel bad and had hoped I didn't cause any pain to him when we broke up. No attempt had been made to contact us. I was stunned by the mix of grief, love and anger that hit me. He wanted to do the right thing so he did what she wanted and broke up with me and got back with her. I was 17 when we dated, he died when I was 18. Jan 15, 2014 · Thank you for writing this, I just found out my ex has passed away. I had a really intense, vivid dream of my ex girlfriend last night. We were together back in 2016 for about two years. He wasn’t addicted to anything when we were together, we both liked to go out and party but we were young and it was never an every day thing. – JoAnne **With so many comments on this post, I felt it was important to provide those grieving the death of an ex-spouse a resource to help guide on how to cope with these emotions and Apr 5, 2015 · For some strange reason I googled his name today - never done it before - and found out that he died just over a year ago. Jun 25, 2013 · Hi. His ex was a major part of his life for a long time, learned how to be the BF he is today with you by being with her. His brother eventually found out the truth and gave him hell for it, apologized to me. I completely understand. We ended things on an ok note and moved on. I've been married four years -- second go-round, my husband and I are in our forties. But now I realize she peppered them to be shutdown to me with her wild azz stories she told them. He wasn’t old or sick or suffering. I googled and tried to dig but I couldn’t find anything, not even a funeral notice. Any of which would shake you to the core. I went from sad to angry. Our relationship had been very intense, and although he didn’t treat me My (22m) ex girlfriend (21f) died suddenly a few days ago, and I can’t describe what it is I’m currently going through… We dated for 8 months until late last year, where she broke up with me with valid reason. I can't describe how I feel right now. My ex boyfriends dad died today. My current bf can be insecure and I felt that if I show any emotion over my exs loss it would hurt his feelings. Last week, I found out that my ex-wife had died. Found out this morning her father passed away a few days ago. I had no idea why he fell out of love with me. She reassured me, my reaction is n ormal and When I didn't know, I placed so much blame on myself wondering what I did wrong. A way back friend of mine died this year. The irony is that I left the relationship because HE was abusing me. I finally found a local grief support group for kids that age and it was such a huge help for us. Also not too bothered that he had passed. He died 3 months ago and since then I have let go some of the anger, but I have a long way to go. What is worse for me is I knew he was very lonely and had lost his mother a year ago, I can't help but feel like part of it is my fault, so I am quite Apr 26, 2019 · When I found out my ex had died, I was away for a weekend with a new flame. In fact, none of my current friends had ever met him. He was my first love and I think of him often. We got divorced a little over a year ago and I can't help but feel that it's my fault. The weird thing is, my last ex had a dead girlfriend too and dating him was strange, to say the least. I was still very much in love with this man and thought about him every day. Finding this out erased all my good memories and I just hated him. Dec 25, 2020 · I'd be very sad too if one of my ex boyfriends died. We were on different paths unfortunately. Matt and I met in 2013 during our senior year in college. just told me she is dead. Although they had not lived together for 30 years, she found herself grieving his passing and the ultimate finality of their relationship. Jul 10, 2021 · Unsurprisingly, her ex-spouse found out about it two years later, and he wasn’t happy about it. Apr 15, 2020 · My sympathies kerry. Gone. Both 28. We had broken up on the day of his death one year exactly to the day prior. One aspect of your ex’s death that gets complicated is navigating the events afterward, like the wake and funeral. He was jealous of a dead person. My ex boyfriend died a year ago, and I am still grieving or maybe haven't even started processing it. I found out after 6 years of having someone who I was in a relationship for 3 years on and off during that time that she only gave me a chance because I was an escape from her, in her words “shitty life” and then told me “what girl wouldn’t use that chance to escape, even though you’re not my type in terms of looks or other things The other day, I found out he unexpectedly passed away. I wasn’t prepared for the devastation and longing I felt when I found out he Listen to the husband? Nope. To answer your question. We weren’t linked on social media. Jun 30, 2019 · I have just found out that my ex fiance has died. He was very young and it was a real shock. Just last month I found out he passed in 2003 from an OD We were really close when I was a teenager. I had the urge to Google his name and found the obituary. He admitted to me, that he found out one of the people he used to have strong feelings for had died. He didn’t want anything to do with me (he divorced me) we had two children together, they didn’t want to see him anymore after they were about 11 and 14. Ding, Dong! The merry-oh Sing it high, sing it low. He was abusive even when he was sober. It was a horrible shock. We broke up because we were both in active addiction and just toxic. Haven’t spoken with ex in 3. He passed in an unusual way. I was in shock and even though we had recently gotten divorced I still wanted him to live his life beyond our relationship, but he had a massive stroke and I found him after he had been dead for a few days. ” “The de ath of my ex brought up scary feelings of abandonment again. I found out my ex wife didn’t abandoned our family, She was dead the all time. I had an ex-boyfriend be hospitalized for a not-very-serious suicide attempt after our breakup. But like all abusers he could also be charming. We were married 4 years and had a son. My husband has been super supportive but I know this doesn’t make total sense to people around me. I think most people would feel super angry if they found out they'd been devotedly grieving someone for years only to find out they were a scummy cheater. And that stirred up a bunch of old feelings. Rub your eyes, get out of bed. Oct 10, 2024 · I just found out that my ex husband passed away. In fact, it's all good. Jul 27, 2018 · I found out about two other women after he died when I saw on his obituary someone refer to him as her 'boyfriend' (this was a few days after he died) and his ex telling me they were on again and off again since January this year so Apr 2, 2020 · My ex-boyfriend died in a freak accident on a solo hunting trip in Alaska a few months ago. his loyalty to his friends is extremely admirable, and i’m extremely relieved for him that he finally finds out the kind of person she is. He was 33 years old. When the truth comes out the cancer was never stage 4, ex wanted to tell the truth, husband chose to lie. We were divorced in 1987 after a fairly short marriage due to him being abusive. I love the bones of her and wouldn't have a word said against her. Then through internet searching I found out he killed himself a day before my son's 18th birthday. I just found out an ex of mine died six months ago, similar to you he meant a lot to me and was influential in my early twenties. (Nephew has graduated from college now. In my case, the affair lasted 4 years and ended 7 years ago. For one, this information comes as a complete surprise to me. May 23, 2016 · Last month, after 28 days in the hospital, my ex-boyfriend died of heart failure. Oct 27, 2024 · This guy was my first boyfriend. I think its a bit unusual to post about someone especially when its been three years, but again, that may be her way to grieve. He died on Tuesday. I’m devastated that my marriage is over, but also devastated that her whole life is forever changed. But anyway, My boyfriend and I eventually worked things out and slowly got back to normal, or so I thought. I found out after the fact that he was already hanging out with her days before the breakup. I am still not sure what happened. But, I politely declined because I didn’t think it was my place to tell her what happened (which I question in retrospect). He thought that if I wasn't in love with him anymore It’s almost as if I’m falling out of love with my fiancé and he has been calling me and texting me non-stop. I just st found out my ex passed away. My already dead ex died very suddenly, so it was a huge shock. Together a few months. I think at the end my partner saw I was by his side every single day in the hospital juggling a career and two small children, and he may have, or at least I hope, he realized how much I loved him. I'm still a little angry. He died a year later, the new wife did not want me at the funeral. It sounds sad but now that he's dead I don't have to worry about him showing up at my house or making new Facebook pages to try to talk to me since I always block him. After he dies it will effect you either way. He ended up moving 2 blocks away from my house. ltlyb fdjl ilga vgnk konfgkp atlm kaj hlha jncmwd xkzwzt owq pfphqdfm azaqx josqickcu jzsly